Friend of Co-Parenting 101 and co-parenting mom Chanie shares a story about two very special people in her daughter's life meeting for the first time.
Most co-parents have nightmare stories to share like I do...but not this time. Crazy, right? I know I am just as shocked. It happens even when you think it is impossible because of all the co-parenting battles you have fought.
Last month, I picked up my daughter from her father’s house where she spent the weekend. As I have done many times before with her father’s knowledge, I arrived with the man I am currently dating. He respectfully waits in the car while I enter the house to pick up my daughter. My daughter has a great bond with both men, who after all these years had never met each other. Unprompted by anything specific, I randomly decided to introduce them to each other in my daughter’s presence.
It went well, amazingly well. So well that her father could not help himself and made me the butt of a joke. After I introduced the two, he said, “Oh, I heard great things about you from her.” He pointed to our daughter then whispered,“Not from her,” and pointed to me.
They both laughed and so did my daughter as I stood there with my mouth open from utter shock. This was a good shock and a measure of our progress as co-parents. Later, I reflected on the introduction and learned that my primary intent was to honor my daughter. It was simply time for the key adults in her life to interact in her presence. It is healthy for her to see that the people she spends time with regularly and loves dearly interact positively. Also, her father deserved to be honored as well as a co-parent. It is important for him to meet the person with whom his daughter has a close relationship. They are close to the point that they not only spend time together in and outside of our home, but also call and text each other regularly.
There is also the matter of honoring the person I am currently dating, who for years has cared for and loved my daughter as if his own child. He, too, deserved the honor of knowing my daughter’s father. I could not be happier and prouder of that unplanned moment. Everyone came together for my daughter. It was a great example for me to see that despite challenges, co-parenting does not have to be a battle.