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Co-Parenting Mentors...Get One, Be One!

Did you know that January is National Mentoring Month? National Mentoring Month was created in 2002 by the Harvard School of Public Health and MENTOR: The National Mentoring Partnership.  They identify mentors as people who have the "ability to listen and to offer friendship, guidance and encouragement."  Creating a space for co-parents to connect with each other, be heard, and get advice and encouragement is why we founded  And while the official focus of National Mentoring Month is on mentoring young people, we think this month is also a good time to find a co-parenting mentor for yourself, or to become a mentor for someone who could benefit from one.

photo by Bartek Ambrozik

Last month, we asked co-parents to reflect on resolutions for the New Year.  A good resolution is anything that serves your child's best interest and helps you stay the course, setting your sights on what is more workable, and leaving behind what hasn't worked.  Having a mentor--someone who is supportive of you as a co-parent and who can be a positive influence--can help you keep to the resolutions you make.  A co-parenting mentor can be someone who has been co-parenting longer than you have, or someone who has been co-parenting under similar circumstances.  Most people are flattered when asked to serve as a mentor, so if there's a co-parent you admire, ask if he or she would be open to being a sounding board for you.

Perhaps you're a co-parenting veteran who has "been there, done that."  Is there a newbie or struggling co-parent who might benefit from your hard-won wisdom?  An understanding and sympathetic ear might be all it takes to make the connection.

Are you already in a co-parenting mentorship, or have you been in the past?  We'd love to hear about your experiences in the comments section.



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Reader Comments (2)

The best mentor I had (and still rely on) is my mother. My mom having gone through divorce when I was 5. She also faced less than ideal financial situations and the nasty back and forth from my father and then stepmother. She has been a really good role model for me.

I also strongly relied on this website, your podcasts, and posters in your FaceBook group.

As things have mostly settled down with my divorce and I'm finding ways to deal with and cope I'd be more than happy to help anyone who wants the help.

January 10, 2014 | Unregistered Commenterkohana09

We're glad you've found our resources helpful. And thanks for being willing to be a help to someone else!

My late mother was also my co-parenting role model, even though I don't think anyone ever used the word "co-parenting." Even though my father didn't take care of his parental responsibilities, she never spoke ill of him. And she took it upon herself to connect with the mother of one of my half-sisters, so that we could be close that we don't use the "half." :-) I really appreciate my mom's willingness to put her feelings aside to make that relationship possible for me. Now at 42 and 40 years old, my sister is my closest living relative (besides my kids), and we are still very close.

January 10, 2014 | Registered CommenterDeesha Philyaw

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